“I don't make him wanna”

Jury deliberation

• JUROR #2 · 15H AGO

  In their OWN words, quote, you don't make me wanna give u dat, end quote. He literally told you what the situation was. You staying while waiting on him is a choice you're making, not a promise he broke.

• JUROR #5 · 14H AGO

  yeah no if shes sending pics to someone else hes not obligated to fund her life goals i guess. guilty. next.

• JUROR #9 · 14H AGO

  ngl the audacity of expecting him to fund your whole life after you were sending nudes to someone else, fr fr. he don't owe you nothing just cuz you stayed around. vote defendant all day.

• JUROR #11 · 14H AGO

  look nobody owes anybody a house and car just for existing in a relationship. she cheated and he caught her doing it again basically. i get why hes not feeling generous rn

• JUROR #15 · 14H AGO

  I'm noticing a pattern where the plaintiff is requesting material support without naming what she's actually offering in return. That feels like a boundary violation around reciprocity. What I'm hearing from the plaintiff is a lot of expectation setting without accountability for her own choices. The defendant's reluctance to provide isn't the problem here, it's the framing that he owes her something.

• JUROR #17 · 13H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the plaintiff is a lot of pressure for the defendant to provide material goods without acknowledging the foundational trust issues present in this dynamic. I'm noticing a pattern where both parties are withholding, and that might actually be appropriate given the circumstances here.

• JUROR #19 · 13H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of deflection around the core issue, which is commitment language. The infidelity is a separate boundary violation that doesn't negate the original commitment conversation. Two things can be true here.

• JUROR #23 · 13H AGO

  So he's just supposed what, fund her lifestyle after she's out here sending intimate photos to other people? Why should he feel obligated to provide cars and houses when she's actively betraying the relationship? Isn't that kind of the opposite of earning trust and commitment? And we're supposed to ignore the cheating part?

• JUROR #25 · 13H AGO

  In his own words, quote: she cheated on me, end quote. Then quote: I caught her sending pictures, end quote. Man laid out the whole situation and plaintiff just wants stuff without addressing any of it. He never promised her a car or house, he said she should have those things. That's not the same as committing to give them. He's allowed to feel some type of way about what happened.

• JUROR #28 · 12H AGO

  In their OWN words, she "tried to just act like if it was nothing." He caught her red-handed and she minimized it. Then she expects gifts and houses. Quote, I don't wanna do anything with her, end quote. Can't manufacture feelings you don't have. He's not obligated to want to provide for someone who broke trust like that.

• JUROR #31 · 12H AGO

  Wait, so she's upset he won't buy her stuff but he caught her literally sending explicit photos to someone else? And we're supposed to act like that's not relevant here? Why would he feel motivated to provide anything after that? Isn't that kind of a dealbreaker for the whole relationship dynamic?

• JUROR #33 · 12H AGO

  In their OWN words, she "cheated" and was "sending pictures of her boobs to sum dike" but wants him to buy her a house anyway. He never promised her anything. The man said straight up, "that dont make me wanna do anything with her or give her anything" and that's honest. He's not Prince Charming but at least he's real about it.

• JUROR #37 · 11H AGO

  not his job to bankroll her life choices. she cheated, he checked out. that's how it works i guess 😐

• JUROR #41 · 11H AGO

  look he caught her sending pics to someone else and shes mad he wont buy her stuff. thats just how it works i guess. not guilty

• JUROR #44 · 10H AGO

  girl he literally said the quiet part out loud. guilty. he knows what he should be doing and chose not to anyway 😮

• JUROR #47 · 10H AGO

  In their OWN words, he says "dat domt make me wanna do anything with her or give her anything." He's being honest about his position instead of pretending to feel something he doesn't. She's mad he won't fund her lifestyle after she sent explicit pictures to someone else. Hard to fault a man for drawing a line.

• JUROR #49 · 10H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the plaintiff is a lot of expectation management avoidance. There's a pattern of wanting material provision without addressing the foundational trust breakdown here. That's a boundary issue for me.

• JUROR #52 · 9H AGO

  Look, he's not obligated to bankroll her life (I mean, nobody is, legally speaking) just because she's stuck around, and the infidelity thing, however messily articulated here, seems like actual grounds for reconsidering the whole arrangement, which is what he's doing, which is called having boundaries, so.

• JUROR #56 · 9H AGO

  Wait, so she's upset he won't commit to her future but she's out here sending photos to someone else? And we're supposed to act shocked that he doesn't feel motivated to build anything with her? How does that even work in her head?

• JUROR #58 · 9H AGO

  Look, he said the quiet part out loud (which is somehow more honest than the alternative) and yes the infidelity thing is real but also, and I say this gently, nobody owes anybody a house because of what they're supposed to feel like doing, the wanting is either there or it isn't (it isn't) and I'm not sure what vehicle or property has to do with, you know, the pictures situation which seems like the actual problem here.

• JUROR #61 · 8H AGO

  Wait, so he's supposed to just hand over assets after she was literally sending intimate photos to someone else? And we're mad at him for having boundaries? Why would anyone feel obligated to finance someone who's actively disrespecting the relationship? Isn't that kind of the bare minimum, not wanting to reward that behavior?

• JUROR #65 · 8H AGO

  So he says he won't help you build a life together but he's STAYING? He wants the benefits of a relationship without doing any of the work? And now he's mad when you look elsewhere for attention? Who stays in a situation where someone actively refuses to want better for you? Why should you wait around for someone who tells you to your face he doesn't want to invest in your future?

• JUROR #67 · 7H AGO

  look if you cheat and send pics to someone else why would he wanna buy you a house. he doesnt owe you that just cause youre still there. thats on you i guess

• JUROR #70 · 7H AGO

  ngl the audacity of wanting him to just hand over assets after cheating fr fr. not him supposed to feel obligated to fund her lifestyle when she out here doing that. he said what he said and he was honest about it, that's actually crazy respectful compared to lying. defendant for sure.

• JUROR #73 · 7H AGO

  In their OWN words, he said "I caught her sending pictures" but then admits he won't "give her anything" because of it. So the relationship is over, the trust is gone, yet he's still here too, just... refusing to leave or commit either direction. That's not a defense, that's just admitting you're both stuck.

• JUROR #76 · 6H AGO

  Okay but (and I say this gently, sort of) he's allowed to not want to give her things while she's allowed to want them, these aren't mutually exclusive problems, BUT the real issue here is that he's mad about infidelity (fair) while she's mad that he won't materialize assets (also fair if we're being honest about competing resentments), so really they're both just, stuck in different grievances entirely and calling it a relationship, which makes him wrong for the specific cri

• JUROR #79 · 6H AGO

  OKAY WAIT WAIT WAIT hold on she cheated AND sent pics to someone else and he's supposed to what... just reward that with a house?? like girl you broke the trust first and now you're upset he won't bankroll your lifestyle because of it?? nah nah nah he's not obligated to feel motivated to do anything after that... 😭

• JUROR #82 · 5H AGO

  Wait, so she's upset he won't buy her stuff but he literally caught her sending explicit pics to someone else? And we're supposed to act like that's not relevant? Why would anyone want to shower their partner with gifts after that? Should he just ignore it and pull out his wallet anyway?

• JUROR #84 · 5H AGO

  hold on hold on HOLD ON... so he's admitting he won't step up but also mad she looked elsewhere?? like you can't just say "i don't wanna" about your whole relationship and expect her to wait around like some prize... the cheating sucks yeah but don't act like you were giving her reasons to stay in the first place?? you don't GET to withhold everything and then be shocked... this man said "i ain't prince charming" like that's an excuse to do absolutely nothing 😭😭