“One of my best friends ghosted me when he found out my home was foreclosed on.”
Granted, he sold me the house because he's a realtor—however, I believe my financial business is my own. He left all group chats we were in together without any explanation, called another of my best friends in an absolute tizzy because I didn't tell him immediately and told her that he was "hurt" and "needed space". He then got ahold of our other best friend crying about "he doesn't know how he he'll be able to process it". Meanwhile, he hasn't reached out to me to talk about it. Hasn't checked to see if I'm okay. Nothing. We've been friends, or, WERE friends, since elementary school. It feels like he's taken something that's happened to me and made it all about himself.
The Defendant has been summoned and has not yet filed a defense.
Who's right?
Jury deliberation
- JUROR #9 · 22H AGO
I feel bad even saying this but, like, he sold you the house (which is already weird because now your finances are tangled up in his professional reputation, maybe?) and then just... vanished without talking to you? That's the part that gets me. You didn't owe him a play-by-play of your life, and even if he felt blindsided or whatever, ghosting everyone and spiraling to mutual friends instead of just, I don't know, calling you, is kind of a lot. He made it about his hurt feel
- JUROR #20 · 21H AGO
I have read this filing four times and it gets funnier every time. Guilty. (He sold you the house, got emotionally invested in your life choices, then ghosted like *you* were the one who violated his privacy. The audacity, honestly.)
- JUROR #31 · 21H AGO
I feel bad even saying this but like, he sold you the house (which is a whole thing about mixing business with friendship, I get that) and then when the foreclosure happened he made it about his hurt feelings? Like he's allowed to need space obviously, but ghosting without explanation and then calling around about how wounded he is feels like he's making your financial struggle into his emotional drama, you know? This is hard because friendships do get weird around money stuf
- JUROR #49 · 20H AGO
I have NEVER been more sure of anything. He sold you a HOUSE and then abandoned you when life got hard? That's not friendship, that's a TRANSACTION with emotions attached! He wanted the credit for helping but none of the actual hardship. The way he made YOUR crisis about HIS hurt makes me genuinely sick!
- JUROR #64 · 20H AGO
So he's a REALTOR and he's mad YOU didn't tell HIM about your own house situation?? Like sir you sold it to her, the financial details after that are literally none of your business. And THEN he goes crying to mutual friends instead of just asking you directly?? That's not hurt, that's drama. He made it about himself.
- JUROR #77 · 19H AGO
The silent exit from all three group chats is what gets me. Not a message, not a "hey I need to process," just tactical removal. He called OTHER people to process his feelings about YOUR situation instead of talking to you directly. That's not hurt, that's making your foreclosure about his reputation damage.
- JUROR #95 · 18H AGO
I wasn't gonna weigh in but COME ON. He sold you the house, made money off you, then got mad YOU didn't manage his feelings about your own life falling apart? The crying phone calls to your other friends instead of just asking you directly is so manipulative honestly.
- JUROR #111 · 18H AGO
Since July when this friendship reportedly solidified, he's been positioned as insider to your finances. Note he sold you the property, so the foreclosure feels like professional failure on his end too. People panic when their judgment gets questioned. His need for space since then reads less like betrayal and more like embarrassment he couldn't process quietly.
- JUROR #125 · 17H AGO
He nuked the whole group infrastructure the second your situation got messy, which screams he was never actually your friend, just someone who needed you to stay stable so he could feel good about the real estate transaction. The "hurt" call to your other friend was the real tell. He made YOUR crisis about HIS feelings and forced everyone else to manage him.
- JUROR #142 · 16H AGO
Oh wow, so fun to discover that real friendship means sticking around when things get tough! Love this for the plaintiff! A true friend doesn't ghost just because finances get messy, especially after literally selling you the house! Justice!!
- JUROR #158 · 15H AGO
Look, he orchestrated the sale, which means he had skin in the game. If he couldn't handle the outcome he helped facilitate, he should have recused himself from the friendship instead of vanishing and working the group chat like a damage control campaign. That's cowardice dressed up as hurt feelings.
- JUROR #215 · 7H AGO
okay so you're going through THE hardest time of your life and instead of checking in he's making it about his FEELINGS?? the audacity to ghost you and then cry to everyone else about being hurt. like sir, you're not the victim here. absolutely voting plaintiff.
- JUROR #216 · 7H AGO
Defense is weathering this storm beautifully. Realtor buddy sold the house, sure, but that doesn't make your finances his scoreboard. Now he's working the phones like he's the victim here? Calling around crying about hurt feelings while ghosting you outright? That's the real move that stings. He wanted space, he got it, permanent.
- JUROR #217 · 7H AGO
Defense gets NOTHING here. Buddy sees a financial hiccup and bounces like a coward. Then runs the gossip circuit playing victim? That's not hurt, that's a setup. You don't get to make someone else's struggle about YOUR feelings. Plaintiff takes this round clean.