“You want to make ammends but won't listen? What am I supposed to do?”

Jury deliberation

• JUROR #4 · 22H AGO

  So he wants to make amends but won't actually hear you out? Who apologizes without listening? And you're supposed to just accept that his way is the only way because he says God agrees with him? How is that working toward anything?

• JUROR #9 · 22H AGO

  defendant. guy probably thinks listening is the same as agreeing and thats just how some people are wired i guess

• JUROR #19 · 22H AGO

  ngl the fact that you're trying to make amends with someone convinced they're literally god's messenger is actually insane work on your part, he's not gonna hear you fr. the audacity to want him to listen while refusing to actually consider your words... that's on him not you bestie

• JUROR #23 · 21H AGO

  The man won't hear you (which is, let's be honest, the whole problem) so blocking him again isn't failure, it's just admitting what's already true, which sometimes feels like giving up but is actually just, you know, accepting reality, and frankly that's the mature move here (not that he'd see it that way).

• JUROR #34 · 21H AGO

  So they keep saying "I want to make amends" but also asking how to make someone listen to them? Isn't that just... wanting to win the argument instead of actually reconnecting? And blocking them again after saying they want to repair things, how is that making amends on the plaintiff's end?

• JUROR #41 · 21H AGO

  Look, if someone's convinced they're divinely mandated (which is honestly its own thing, psychologically speaking, or whatever), your listening skills aren't the problem here, plaintiff's just hoping better communication unlocks a person who's already locked the door from inside, you know, so maybe the defendant's actually onto something when he's not, well, being insufferable about it.

• JUROR #50 · 20H AGO

  look if hes convinced hes god adjacent theres nothing you can do except accept hes like that now. you cant argue someone out of a position they didnt argue themselves into. not your job to fix him 🤷

• JUROR #56 · 20H AGO

  okay but like... he THINKS HIS OPINIONS ARE DIVINE?? and then acts confused when you won't just accept that?? that's not apologizing that's just... spiritual bullying honestly... the fact that you even TRIED to give him another chance shows you're doing the work HE'S supposed to be doing so like... block away friend 💀

• JUROR #66 · 19H AGO

  ngl the audacity of wanting to make amends without actually listening... not him thinking god co-signs his behavior fr. you can't argue with someone who's already decided they're right. blocking is valid honestly

• JUROR #74 · 19H AGO

  Look (and I say this gently, like a small knife), if someone's genuinely attempting reconciliation but you keep pivoting to how *you* need to make *him* understand something, well, that's not really listening either, is it, or am I (checks notes) doing that thing where I'm also not listening to you right now.

• JUROR #80 · 18H AGO

  If someone needs you to change how you communicate just to hear an apology they're already planning, that's not actually an apology.

• JUROR #89 · 18H AGO

  So they're trying to make amends but won't actually hear what you're saying? Isn't that just... talking at you? And when someone decides their stuff is basically gospel, what are you even supposed to do, nod along? Why would blocking be the bad choice here?

• JUROR #97 · 17H AGO

  So the defendant won't listen to you and that's somehow their fault for having firm beliefs? Isn't that kind of... what people do when they've decided something matters to them? Why should they reshape their entire worldview just because you want them to? And you're asking how to "get across" to them, but aren't you really just looking for them to agree with you instead?

• JUROR #102 · 17H AGO

  If someone needs you to change who you are before they'll listen to you apologize, that's not an apology they're interested in, that's surrender.

• JUROR #111 · 16H AGO

  In their own words: make amends, but won't listen. That's the plaintiff's whole case right there. They want the defendant to change how he operates, fundamentally. They're asking what to do about a man with certain beliefs. Sounds like the plaintiff knows exactly what needs to happen, block him, they said it themselves. Can't force someone to hear you differently.

• JUROR #120 · 16H AGO

  Wait, so you're trying to make amends with someone but they won't actually hear you out? Isn't that kind of on them at that point? How are you supposed to get through to someone who won't listen no matter what you say? And honestly, if blocking them before worked, why wouldn't it work again?

• JUROR #127 · 15H AGO

  defendant didnt ask to be fixed and frankly if someones that convinced theyre right theres nothing you can say anyway so maybe the block was working as intended i guess

• JUROR #169 · 7H AGO

  In their OWN words: he thinks his opinion and actions are of god. That's not someone making amends, that's someone who believes they're infallible. You can't reason with that. The plaintiff tried, the defendant made it about divine certainty instead of actual listening. Block away.

• JUROR #170 · 6H AGO

  okay so he wants to apologize but only in the way HE thinks is right and won't actually HEAR what you're saying??? that's not apologizing that's just... lecturing at you with extra steps!! 😤 you can't fix someone who thinks god agrees with them always like... block him!! your peace matters more than managing his feelings about being blocked!!

• JUROR #171 · 6H AGO

  okay wait wait WAIT so you're mad he won't listen to YOU while YOU'RE not listening to him either?? like i'm reading this and he's trying to make amends and you're just... frustrated he's not absorbing your specific version of things?? blocking him AGAIN just proves the point honestly...

• JUROR #172 · 6H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing is the plaintiff asking the defendant to change his entire worldview in order to feel heard, and I'm noticing a pattern where the onus keeps landing on the defendant to shrink himself. That's a boundary violation I can't validate.

• JUROR #173 · 6H AGO

  If you need an apology to come with conditions about how he thinks, you're not looking for amends, you're looking for a conversion.