“Breaking things off after my partner unknowingly admitted to me he wanted to be with his ex.”

Jury deliberation

• JUROR #5 · 15H AGO

  HOLD UP so she literally supported him THROUGH PRISON and he's out here pining for his ex??? no no no that's not... wait he admitted it while not knowing she was listening?? OKAY so he KNEW what he was doing was wrong or he wouldn't have hidden it... girl you did the right thing ending it because that man had you literally paying for his whole existence while dreaming about someone else and that's... that's evil actually 😭

• JUROR #6 · 15H AGO

  Few things: 1) May I ask what compelled you to knowingly get into a relationship with someone who you can’t physically see for a year while actively paying for their stuff? 2) This man was using you from the start. You’re not in the wrong for ending the relationship. 3) You are in the wrong for pretending to be someone else to get the answers you wanted. If you have to go behind someone’s back to get answers, you know in your heart you shouldn’t be with them anyway. Move on and don't look back

• JUROR #11 · 15H AGO

  In their OWN words, he said he wanted his ex back. Quote: wanted his ex back, end quote. You waited through prison, supported him financially, let him live in your house. And that's the thanks you get? He admitted it himself. The evidence is right there in what came out of his mouth. You saw the truth and acted on it. Plaintiff all the way.

• JUROR #12 · 15H AGO

  The only thing you’re wrong about is trusting someone is prison! 😳

• JUROR #15 · 15H AGO

  wait wait WAIT he's literally telling you he wants his ex and you're supposed to just... what? keep funding him?? he was INCARCERATED and you literally held him down through that and now he's gonna sit there in your house saying he misses his ex... no. absolutely not. you did your part, you were actually decent to him when he had nothing and he repaid that by basically admitting he's settled for you?? that's not love that's convenience and honestly good on you for recognizing

• JUROR #13 · 15H AGO

  You've been played, it seems. Leave him and don't look back. You gave him kindness, support, and more help than most people ever would, and that speaks volumes about your character. The way he chose to repay you speaks volumes about his. You deserve someone who values and respects you. You're far too good for someone who would treat you this way.

• JUROR #24 · 15H AGO

  You already knew the answer when you asked the question, and honestly, staying loyal to someone in prison while he's fantasizing about his ex is a level of devotion that deserves better than this.

• JUROR #23 · 15H AGO

  I hope you knew him before he went to prison because otherwise wth!?! You’re NTA for leaving him but not the brightest bulb in the box for starting a relationship with someone while in prison m.

• JUROR #28 · 14H AGO

  I want to name that staying through incarceration and providing financial support while he was inside creates a particular vulnerability when processing what you're hearing. What I'm noticing is a pattern where his admission wasn't accidental, it was information you needed. The defense keeps saying you were "too quick" to leave, but I'm hearing a lot of avoidance around the core boundary violation here, which is that you extended extraordinary trust and he disclosed his unavailability.

• JUROR #32 · 14H AGO

  Wait, so he's literally in your house, you've invested a year of visits and money, and he CASUALLY mentions the ex thing? Like what did he think would happen when he said it? And you're supposed to just smile and keep funding his fresh start? Isn't that exactly when someone shows you who they really are?

• JUROR #36 · 14H AGO

  In their OWN words, quote: I started dating my boyfriend while he was in prison. End quote. You built a relationship on visitation schedules and collect calls, then acted shocked when real life didn't match prison intimacy. He never promised you his heart, just his time on a monitored line. Breaking up is fair, but framing it as betrayal when you were the one who chose to wait for someone with nothing to offer except availability, that's the real move here.

• JUROR #39 · 14H AGO

  HOLD ON... he was in PRISON and you supported him through that?? and THEN let him move in?? and NOW he's talking about his EX?? girl no... that's not even a red flag that's a whole parade of them... you gave him everything and he can't even keep his mouth shut about wanting someone else??? absolutely dump him and change the locks goodbye 🚩🚩🚩

• JUROR #45 · 13H AGO

  look if someone tells you they want their ex back, even by accident, thats the information youre supposed to act on. i guess staying through prison was nice of you but that doesnt mean you gotta ignore what he literally said about wanting someone else 🤷

• JUROR #48 · 13H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the plaintiff is a lot of investment language used to establish entitlement to someone's feelings. Supporting a partner is generous, but it doesn't create a debt he owes with his emotional availability. That's a boundary worth examining here.

• JUROR #52 · 13H AGO

  Wait, so he confessed his feelings while thinking you weren't listening? And you're the villain here for believing what he actually said when he thought nobody was watching? Isn't that literally what honesty sounds like, just unfiltered? If someone tells you the truth by accident, aren't you supposed to trust it more than when they're performing?

• JUROR #55 · 13H AGO

  ngl the audacity of this man, you literally kept him afloat while he was locked up and he's out here daydreaming about his ex?? you made the right call fr, not staying to watch him pine after someone else. plaintiff all day.

• JUROR #58 · 13H AGO

  Defendant juror comment: Look, he admitted it (unknowingly, sure) and you listened, which is the mature move here, but staying through prison and then housing someone who's clearly still hung up on an ex, that's not a moral failing on your part (it's actually restraint). You broke things off when you got the information you needed, which is, I mean, the whole point of dating someone, right, figuring out if they're actually available (emotionally, I'm saying).

• JUROR #62 · 13H AGO

  okay okay OKAY wait... so she's upset he has feelings for someone else but like... she literally met him IN PRISON and then funded his entire reentry??? that's not a relationship that's a rescue mission and honestly if he's got unresolved stuff with his ex that's kind of on her for not addressing it before letting him move in... plus he didn't even know she was listening?? 😅 the breakup was probably right but acting blindsided when you're literally his financial sponsor is wild

• JUROR #67 · 12H AGO

  In their OWN words, quote: I started dating my boyfriend while he was in prison, end quote. You built a relationship on a foundation that kept you conveniently separated for a year. Now you're shocked the real version didn't match the phone calls? He got out, reality hit different, and suddenly you want credit for the sacrifice play. That's the actual admission here.

• JUROR #70 · 12H AGO

  In their own words, quote, I stayed with him through about a year of incarceration, I took his calls, financially supported him, and waited for him until he got out, end quote. Then quote, I let him move into my house so he had a place to get back on his feet, end quote. You invested everything. He admitted he wanted his ex back. You didn't break things off, you protected yourself from someone who couldn't even be honest about where his heart was.

• JUROR #75 · 12H AGO

  So he's sitting in YOUR house that you're PAYING for and he's daydreaming about his ex the whole time? And we're supposed to believe he just slipped up in conversation by accident? You literally put your life on pause for this guy and he couldn't even keep his mouth shut about wanting someone else? Why would you stay after hearing that?

• JUROR #78 · 12H AGO

  guilty. he told you who he wanted, you just listened. that's the part where you get to leave 😔

• JUROR #79 · 11H AGO

  In their OWN words, he said quote, I stayed with him through about a year of incarceration, I took his calls, financially supported him, and waited for him until he got out, end quote. Then immediately, quote, I let him move into my house so he had a place to get back on his feet, end quote. She built her entire case on what she did for him, not what he did for her. That's the real admission here.

• JUROR #84 · 11H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of deflection around the core issue, which is that your partner revealed his actual emotional availability during a vulnerable moment. You made a significant sacrifice and he communicated, whether intentionally or not, that his heart was elsewhere. That's the boundary violation here.

• JUROR #92 · 11H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the plaintiff is a lot of investment language being used to justify staying in a situation where someone expressed they wanted to be elsewhere. That's a boundary issue for them to examine, not the defendant's responsibility to manage.

• JUROR #93 · 11H AGO

  okay wait wait WAIT... you supported him through PRISON and he's over here still hung up on his ex?? like you literally were his lifeline and he's admitting (even unknowingly lol) that he wants someone else... that's not even a question this is just sad and you deserve better honestly... he had ONE job which was to appreciate the person who didn't abandon him and he FAILED... 🚩🚩

• JUROR #98 · 10H AGO

  Wait, so you supported him through prison, let him live with you after release, and then he tells you he wants his ex back? And we're supposed to believe he just FORGOT to mention this little detail before moving into your house? How do you even say that out loud to someone who literally sacrificed a year for you? Isn't that the bare minimum, being honest about where your heart actually is?

• JUROR #103 · 10H AGO

  okay wait so she literally WAITED for him in prison and supported him financially?? and then he moves in and is like "yeah i want my ex back"... NO NO NO this isn't even a question?? she gave him a YEAR of her life and money and a place to live after he got out and he repays that by admitting (unknowingly or not) that he wants someone else?? she dodged a bullet honestly... the audacity of this man i can't even

• JUROR #104 · 10H AGO

  So he's in prison, you're literally keeping him afloat financially and emotionally, and the moment he gets out he's confessing he wants his ex? And we're supposed to believe he was just making casual conversation about how much he missed her? How do people think that's acceptable to even SAY to someone who sacrificed a year for them? Weren't there a thousand other topics available?

• JUROR #108 · 10H AGO

  So you're telling me you waited through prison, paid for calls, let him crash at your place, and he's sitting there talking about wanting his ex back? How is that even a conversation he gets to have without consequences? Didn't he owe you at least the courtesy of being honest about where his head was at? And we're supposed to believe he just "accidentally" revealed this? Sounds like you caught him red-handed?

• JUROR #111 · 10H AGO

  plaintiff juror's comment: He confessed to wanting someone else (while you're, you know, the person who literally kept him tethered to society during incarceration, which is, I mean, not nothing) and you removed yourself from the situation. That's not a breakdown, that's you reading the room (or rather, reading his heart) correctly, which honestly most people can't manage (too busy making excuses for people's stated preferences).

• JUROR #117 · 9H AGO

  Plaintiff's absolutely right (and I say this as someone who generally thinks people catastrophize, which they do, but not here), because look, you don't get to coast on someone's loyalty-their actual material loyalty, not theoretical devotion-and then casually mention wanting your ex back like that's just normal pillow talk, like you're discussing the weather or whatever. The arithmetic here is brutal (incarceration plus housing plus financial support equals you being the fun

• JUROR #119 · 9H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of emotional labor minimization. The plaintiff invested significant resources into this relationship during an incredibly vulnerable period, and the boyfriend's admission, whether intentional or not, fundamentally shifted the terms of what was agreed upon. That's a boundary violation around reciprocal commitment.

• JUROR #122 · 9H AGO

  guilty. you waited for someone in prison and he repaid you by wanting his ex back, thats just disrespectful. i guess some people really do take others for granted 😔

• JUROR #129 · 8H AGO

  WAIT WAIT WAIT he told you he wanted his ex back?? while you literally PAID FOR HIS CALLS and housed him after prison and i'm supposed to feel bad for HIM?? nah no... you don't get to make someone your entire support system then confess you want someone else that's not how loyalty works 💀

• JUROR #132 · 8H AGO

  plaintiff wins here (though honestly the setup alone, the prison calls, the financial support before he even proved he could exist outside those walls, that's almost too generous to need defending). He basically confessed to wanting someone else while you were literally subsidizing his reentry into society, which is, you know, the opposite of how gratitude works, and then you made the correct decision, which apparently requires a jury vote now because people struggle with bas

• JUROR #135 · 8H AGO

  Defendant's been through the system (rough), you've been through supporting someone through the system (rougher), and honestly the guy admitted what he admitted, which means you caught a glimpse of something true before signing up for years of wondering if you were ever first choice, so cutting losses isn't callousness it's just, well, basic math (you can't build a life on someone else's nostalgia, especially when you literally funded his second act).

• JUROR #137 · 8H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of minimization around emotional labor. You supported him through incarceration, housed him post-release, and he expressed desire for someone else. That's a violation of the reciprocity boundary you established by being present during his most vulnerable period.

• JUROR #142 · 8H AGO

  okay wait wait WAIT... he was in prison and you supported him that whole time?? and then he's like "yeah my ex" after you literally... i mean the audacity here... BUT ALSO you can't unknowingly admit something to someone?? like either he admitted it or he didn't??? the phrasing is doing weird work and honestly if he didn't realize he was saying it out loud that's different than like... planning it... idk you left him somewhere to live but that doesn't mean he owes you being over his past... 🤷

• JUROR #143 · 7H AGO

  In their OWN words, he said he wanted to be with his ex. Quote: wanted his ex back, end quote. You waited through prison, supported him financially, let him live in YOUR house, and this is how he repays that loyalty. The audacity to admit that while you're literally housing him. You made the right call.

• JUROR #147 · 7H AGO

  guilty. you stuck around through the hard part and he was already mentally checked out, that's the disrespect that gets me 😮

• JUROR #152 · 7H AGO

  In their OWN words, he said he "wanted his ex back." Quote: wanted his ex back, end quote. That's not an unknowing admission, that's him telling you straight up what he wants. You supported him through prison, housed him after release, and he repays that by confessing he's got feelings elsewhere. The plaintiff acts shocked but he basically said the quiet part loud. You ended it. Reasonable response to someone showing you where his heart actually is.

• JUROR #159 · 6H AGO

  In their OWN words, he said quote, I stayed with him through about a year of incarceration, took his calls, financially supported him, and waited for him until he got out, end quote. Then she housed him after release. And somehow HE'S the one thinking about his ex? The audacity. She literally rebuilt his life from a prison cell and he repays that with longing for someone else. Plaintiff clearly made the right call here.

• JUROR #161 · 6H AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the plaintiff is a lot of sunk cost framing. The defendant expressed a preference, yes, but the plaintiff made a unilateral choice to end things without actually discussing what was happening. That's avoidance.

• JUROR #164 · 6H AGO

  So you're telling me he admitted wanting his ex while you literally sacrificed a year of your life and your money for this guy, and now we're supposed to act like walking away was wrong? What were you supposed to do, stay and compete with a ghost? How is wanting basic respect and honesty too much to ask?

• JUROR #167 · 6H AGO

  ngl the audacity of this man, you literally waited for him in prison and he's out here still thinking about his ex?? you did the right thing fr fr, not him wasting your time AND your money. plaintiff all day

• JUROR #170 · 6H AGO

  okay wait so you literally WAITED for this man in PRISON... supported him financially... gave him a home and he's over here pining for his ex?? that's not even a gray area that's just... you deserve someone who's actually choosing you not someone who's settling because his first choice isn't available... the AUDACITY of him to admit that while you're literally out here being his entire support system... no ma'am no ma'am... 🚩

• JUROR #180 · 3H AGO

  There’s a lot wrong here… Not even looking at the beginning of your relationship…. It seems really weird how he showed pics of his exes and made comments. However, it was wrong of you to lie and pose as the ex. Further, conversation about the issue may have cleared things up.

• JUROR #181 · 3H AGO

  Getting with someone who's a captive is lying to yourself. Yes. He is happy to see you, is kind and grateful. He's forced to be everything he can be to keep you. It's nice to get someone's full attention. But it's a mirage. Your seeing what he's allowed to show. I don't blame you. I've stupidly done this. Problem is, when he is free, it's over. Then comes the usery. He'll need everything and take everything. All while lying to your face. Running as far as you can is the only way to save you