“My ex put on a face, lied, and cheated after buying a house together recently. Me 24yo m him 26yo m.”
We were in what seemed like a very strong relationship. 3 years strong. Lived together for a year before buying a house. 7 months and 20k dollars in renovations later he lied and cheated on me and didnt think i would find it on his Mac via iMessages. He cropped me out of pictures with our dogs and made our home look like his own doing. We never argued or faught. Had what i thought to be sometbing very good. Noticed him being distant one day and that was unusual. Heard a ring in the house when he was out of town and i had my phone on me so i knew it came from computer. I looked and found out this was something on goong for a while. I was mortified. Thoight it was a prank. It wasnt.
During the relationship, I acted in good faith by providing consistent emotional, personal, and financial support. I maintained the household, cared for our dogs while he traveled for work, and remained committed to the relationship. Financially, he contributed approximately $10,000 toward the down payment on the property, while I contributed approximately $10,000 by selling my vehicle and funding renovations that increased the home's value. Although the sale proceeds were divided equally, I was left solely responsible for satisfying the outstanding debt associated with the property, resulting in little to no financial benefit to me. In contrast, he retained his share without assuming the same financial burden. Following the separation, I also relinquished nearly all shared property of value, despite many items having been gifted to us or intended for my use. The only assets I retained were our dogs, as separating them was not in their best interest. The financial and personal consequences of his conduct left me in a substantially disadvantaged position and required me to rebuild my life from the ground up.
A formal apology for the stress and anxiety endured as my world fell apart overnight. Said he lost feelings months ago. Sad.
Who's right?
Jury deliberation
- JUROR #5 · 23H AGO
ngl the cropping you out of pictures WITH YOUR DOGS hit different. thats not just cheating thats rewriting the whole narrative fr. the audacity of buying a house together and then playing house with someone else. guilty guilty guilty
- JUROR #16 · 23H AGO
I want to name that the defendant's framing of basic relationship maintenance as heroic contributions while simultaneously betraying trust and altering shared history is a pattern I'm noticing. The cropping plaintiff out of photos with their mutual dogs, that's a boundary violation around shared narrative and identity within the relationship. What I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of focus on financial inputs rather than addressing the actual harm caused.
- JUROR #17 · 23H AGO
As a friend of the plaintiff I wanted to clarify he accidentally typed in defense and plaintiff lol. But yeah fuck the defendant 🤣
- JUROR #31 · 22H AGO
I need more clarity from the defendant on the whole acted in good faith by providing emotional and personal support. Isn’t that just the basic thing to do the expected thing to do in a relationship like did you have go above and beyond the normal standard? That’s odd that you would frame it that way also being stuck with the debt is that based off of your renovations and not addressed, the cropping of the picture is wild most definitely deserves an apology at the least it’s giving a gaslighting
- JUROR #50 · 20H AGO
HOLD UP he was CROPPING YOU OUT OF PICTURES WITH YOUR DOGS??? after three years?? and the whole "i was so committed" defense while literally cheating and lying... the iMessages don't lie sir!! the Mac doesn't lie!! you can't rewrite the house into being just yours when you both literally bought it together and he literally... okay fine he cared for the dogs BUT HE WAS ALSO DECEIVING YOU THE ENTIRE TIME?? this isn't a financial dispute this is about someone building a whole fa
- JUROR #52 · 20H AGO
The debt is the least you can do to atone for cheating and lying, defendant.
- JUROR #73 · 19H AGO
Wait, so he's mad about the photos but who was actually doing the renovations? Who paid for most of that 20k? And didn't he literally admit to traveling for work while defendant held down the house and the dogs? Isn't that the whole point of a partnership, that one person covers things when the other can't? Why does cropping photos out make someone a villain in a relationship that apparently never had real conflict until this happened?
- JUROR #85 · 18H AGO
So you're telling me he cropped you out of pictures with YOUR dogs and then what, posted them like he single handedly built that house? Who does that to someone they supposedly loved? And he's claiming he was so committed while literally messaging someone else behind your back? How do you even look your partner in the eye after doing that? Shouldn't those iMessages be all the evidence anyone needs here?
- JUROR #96 · 17H AGO
yeah he bought half a house and a whole different life on the side, guilty. the mac messages really seal it considering he went out of his way to crop you out of pictures like you werent even there
- JUROR #106 · 16H AGO
I want to name that what I'm noticing is a pattern of rewriting shared history. Cropping you out of photos with the dogs you both raised, presenting renovation work as solo accomplishment, these are boundary violations around authorship of your life together. The Mac messages are separate from my concern here, which is really about the systematic erasure happening before the infidelity even entered the picture.
- JUROR #121 · 14H AGO
ngl the fact that he was doing all the household stuff and dog care while you were traveling is lowkey the tea here. like he didn't just cheat randomly, he was carrying the whole home situation. the cropped pics thing sucks fr but that doesn't erase him literally keeping everything afloat. defendant's actually right about the financial contributions being equal too. this feels less betrayal more like you checked out first