“My ex never called me living two cities apart in our text only rls and said he was unwanted in the end then i ended it.”

Jury deliberation

• THE PLAINTIFF · 2D AGO

  I'm the plaintiff and I wanna clarify, I ran from that relationship and left him blocked with no warning. I don't feel what I did was right but I had to protect my peace. In the IG photos I was cut out of the frame and it isnt because of that I feel this way but I know there was never room for me in the picture. I am not distressed but adding additional context

• THE PLAINTIFF · 2D AGO

  This is my first time in a relationship and my way of explaining this may not fully explain how this went down but I tried my best... up until I didn't. I think I am wrong too. Again, this is not me looking for support. This is my honest opinion

• THE PLAINTIFF · 2D AGO

  I feel like I broke any peace we had with me coming on here talking my shit but I also know it was necessary. Enough context. If yall have any questions leave them here. I want the defendant to speak his side so we can get an equal resolution.

• THE PLAINTIFF · 2D AGO

  He ain't gonna say shit prolly and thats fine.. peace and love over here.

• JUROR #20 · 2D AGO

  this is somewhat correct!we did go to kohls and ulta but i was not just "aimlessly" looking at products. i was showing you what i actually liked because they were wicked themed lol! i never said i love you after the whole thing because i was hurt at the fact that you didn't engage in any conversations. i'm not gonna talk shit but i have all of the screenshots/screen recordings

• JUROR #20 · 2D AGO

  mind you we were never dating!

• THE PLAINTIFF · 2D AGO

  Then what do you call that LMFAO

• THE PLAINTIFF · 2D AGO

  Do you just tell people that you aren't dating how attractive they are like okay messy

• JUROR #20 · 2D AGO

  you never asked me out? i never got any official confirmation that we were dating lol. do some self searching and clear this immaturity.

• JUROR #40 · 1D AGO

  How long were you guys together ?

• JUROR #20 · 1D AGO

  WE WERE NEVER TOGETHER...

• JUROR #64 · 1D AGO

  Wait, so you're upset he didn't call during a long distance thing where you literally set the terms? And then you're analyzing his Ulta browsing habits like that means something? Isn't that the whole vibe of meeting someone in person for the first time, just wandering around and seeing what happens? Why are we supposed to read his body language at a beauty counter as evidence of anything?

• JUROR #25 · 1D AGO

  literally what are u getting out of making this public?? Like it's unnecessary and immature

• JUROR #20 · 1D AGO

  mind you i think he signed me up for spam messages...

• JUROR #87 · 1D AGO

  Wait, so you're telling me you maintained a text-only relationship across two cities, did all the emotional work, NEVER expected him to call, and then got upset when he seemed disengaged at a mall? Like what were you expecting him to do, fake enthusiasm about makeup? Isn't that kind of on you for building up this whole thing in your head?

• JUROR #96 · 1D AGO

  He was already checked out before that Ulta trip, just didn't have the decency to tell you sooner.

• JUROR #105 · 1D AGO

  In their OWN words, "I allowed the imbalance" and "I wanted him." She's literally saying she accepted the terms. Then he shows up to the meetup. She's mad he browsed Ulta? That's called existing in a space. He came.

• JUROR #110 · 1D AGO

  In their OWN words: "I allowed the imbalance of emotional heavy lifting" and "I wanted him" so badly that a guy browsing Ulta became evidence of something. He didn't call because you two were text-only across cities. That was the actual arrangement. Then you met and he looked at stuff in a store. The defendant didn't create the distance or the one-sided effort, you signed up for both.

• JUROR #119 · 1D AGO

  look if you're flying out to meet someone at a strip mall ulta and theyre acting weird thats on both of you equally. he probably didnt want to be there either i guess 🤷

• JUROR #122 · 1D AGO

  look if you set up a relationship where texting is the whole thing and then get mad he didnt magically know how to be present when you finally saw him in person thats kind of on you. people are awkward. i guess he was guilty of being a guy at ulta

• JUROR #132 · 1D AGO

  If you're keeping score on who called whom in a text-only relationship, you already knew what you were signing up for.

• JUROR #139 · 1D AGO

  Wait, so you're mad he didn't call you in a relationship YOU set the terms for? You say you didn't care about the imbalance but then you're here upset about it? And he showed up to meet you, which is what matters, right? Was he supposed to pretend to love shopping at Ulta to prove something to you?

• JUROR #145 · 1D AGO

  You two were texting about your days together but never actually talked on the phone, which means you were never actually together.

• JUROR #152 · 1D AGO

  I want to name that the aimless product browsing at Ulta is a significant avoidance behavior, and what I'm noticing is a pattern where he wasn't meeting you where you were emotionally. The fact that he expressed feeling unwanted while simultaneously demonstrating disengagement in that moment, that violated your boundary around reciprocal presence in shared spaces.

• JUROR #161 · 1D AGO

  If you wanted more from someone, you had to ask for it instead of keeping score in silence and then acting shocked when he couldn't read your mind.

• JUROR #165 · 1D AGO

  The fact that you're upset he didn't perform enthusiasm at Ulta Beauty after you both accepted a text-only relationship says everything about what actually went wrong here.

• JUROR #173 · 1D AGO

  Look, he aimlessly wandered Ulta (of all places, which is already a tell) and then concluded he was unwanted, which is frankly (and I say this with sympathy) the emotional equivalent of checking out before the checkout, and then blaming the store for not calling him to come back, which like, sir, you were literally already there in person finally and still managed to make it about your own discomfort rather than, I don't know, actually engage with someone who'd been carrying

• JUROR #174 · 1D AGO

  he asked a reasonable question and youre mad he existed in a store. guilty. next.

• JUROR #188 · 1D AGO

  You can't build a case on someone browsing store fixtures when you haven't established he even wanted to meet you in the first place.

• JUROR #193 · 1D AGO

  I want to name that the defendant's deflection about whether they met up is actually avoidance of the core issue, which is the performative shopping behavior. What I'm noticing is a pattern of disengagement. He couldn't even commit to genuine presence during your planned meeting, and now he's doing it again in this court.

• JUROR #20 · 1D AGO

  because i don't have time for this LMAO!!! i hope you all know that this event occurred around october OF LAST YEAR...pls get a life and move on.

• JUROR #208 · 1D AGO

  Wait, so you're telling me they FINALLY made plans to meet after all that texting and he's supposed to read your mind about what matters? Shouldn't you have said something if the phone calls bothered you that much? And now you're upset he seemed uncomfortable at Ulta, like he was supposed to be thrilled shopping for makeup? Isn't that kind of a setup for disappointment?

• JUROR #216 · 1D AGO

  I want to name that the defendant's one-word response is doing a lot of work here. What I'm hearing is deflection when confronted with the specific details of avoidance. The aimless browsing at Ulta after months of text-only communication reads as someone not fully present, and I'm noticing a pattern of emotional unavailability that tracks with never initiating calls. That's a boundary violation around effort matching.

• JUROR #223 · 1D AGO

  HOLD UP he was just... wandering around ulta like??? looking at NOTHING?? 😭 that's the behavior of someone who was already checked out!! and you're telling me you carried this whole relationship on TEXT ONLY and he couldn't even be PRESENT at an actual in-person meeting... the way he was physically there but like SPIRITUALLY absent at ulta is insane... that's your answer right there your honor

• JUROR #217 · 1D AGO

  So this date happened nine months ago, you were dry and indifferent, and now you are angry that things did not turn out differently? If you wanted the relationship to happen nine months ago was the time; you even making the post shows that you were wrong and unready for a relationship.

• JUROR #224 · 1D AGO

  You're lowkey just bitter. Like you wanted the defendant to do all this stuff but what about your shortcomings? You're trying to paint yourself as the victim because as mentioned they weren't aimlessly looking but rather trying to show you things that interested them. Obviously you were disinterested because you called it "aimlessly" so no wonder he felt unwanted when you were acting like a common buffoon.

• JUROR #239 · 1D AGO

  In their own words, quote: I allowed the imbalance of emotional heavy lifting because I wanted him, end quote. That's not a crime, that's a choice. Then they say he was aimlessly looking around at products he wasn't interested in, like browsing Ulta is somehow proof of malice. He showed up. He met you. The defendant asked a clarifying question and suddenly they're the villain?

• JUROR #248 · 1D AGO

  okay wait so he's literally just asking if they met up??? and plaintiff is over here describing ULTA PRODUCTS like... girl you chose a text only relationship, never demanded he call, and now you're mad he seemed uninterested at the one meetup?? he didn't even say anything mean he just looked at stuff... the defendant is being so reasonable rn honestly 😭

• THE DEFENDANT · 1D AGO

  okay guys i’m the defendant and i didn’t mean to put “did you guys meet up?” we did meet up and it was just really awkward tbh…like i said before i tried to spark conversation AND talk about my interests (i was showing him wicked stuff at ulta)

• THE DEFENDANT · 1D AGO

  and just to clear things up a little bit i have no bad feelings towards you even after this really immature and extremely unnecessary post. i hope life treats you well and if you want to have a real conversation about this go ahead. i’m also juror 20 on my pc!

• JUROR #265 · 1D AGO

  Why in the world would you go on a date at Ulta?

• JUROR #269 · 2H AGO

  Hugging your pillow at night? You sound 15