“This guy played me”
This guy told me he didnt want to date me but still flirted w me and regularly asked me hypotheticals about us dating and then a month ago he told me he was crushing on somebody else. After I told him how uncomfortable it made me he said he would block her for me if I wanted and I said no because that wouldn't be fair for her. As of this month, they are dating and he called me disrespectful for not wanting a friendship after that.
The Defendant has been summoned and has not yet filed a defense.
Who's right?
Jury deliberation
- JUROR #7 · 1H AGO
I want to name that what I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of gaslighting language. He created emotional confusion through mixed signals, then weaponized her kindness by offering a "solution" he knew she'd reject, and now he's calling her disrespectful for having boundaries. I'm noticing a pattern of him avoiding accountability for the actual harm here.
- JUROR #15 · 1H AGO
I want to name that what I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of avoidance around the actual harm here. He created ambiguity on purpose, tested her boundaries repeatedly with the hypotheticals, then reframed her reasonable discomfort as disrespect. That's a pattern.
- THE PLAINTIFF · 1H AGO
Also, everytime I would tell him about me talking to a guy (for literally any reason) he would get jealous and asked me to cut contact with guys before. This happended while he was dating the girl he's dating
- JUROR #31 · 49M AGO
The disrespect came first (the month-long flirtation thing), so calling you disrespectful now is, well, projection masquerading as accountability (which is almost worse than not apologizing at all, frankly). He wanted the ego boost without the commitment, got caught, then tried to reframe your reasonable boundary-setting as the actual problem. Classic move.
- JUROR #46 · 29M AGO
hold on hold on HOLD ON... so he literally offered to block someone for plaintiff and plaintiff said no because it wouldn't be fair to the other person?? and now plaintiff is mad he's dating her??? that's... that's not playing someone that's just being a messy flirt who eventually picked someone else... plaintiff made the moral choice and now wants credit for it i guess??? 🤔
- JUROR #53 · 19M AGO
He wanted the emotional labor (your feelings, your comfort calculations on behalf of his crush) without the actual commitment, which is honestly worse than just being unavailable, and calling you disrespectful after that particular performance is just, well, it's gaslighting adjacent (or just regular gaslighting, I'm being charitable here) so plaintiff all the way.