“My best friend turned our 4-day beach trip into a spreadsheet with quiet hours and a snack tax!”
So fun to discover my best friend had a 9-tab itinerary spreadsheet with a $12 'communal snack fund' I got Venmo-requested for before we even landed!! Column F was literally titled 'Deviation Penalties'!! I asked to skip the 7am lighthouse walk ONE time and got a note about 'group cohesion'! She took the bed by the AC AND controlled the thermostat at 68!! And when I bought us both ice cream ($9) she said it 'wasn't on the approved ledger'! An absolute joy to relax on a trip where being 4 minutes late to breakfast is a documented event! 🙂
I will keep this orderly. Per the trip charter circulated 11 days prior, all occupants of the shared unit agreed to: (a) a 68-degree common-area temperature, standard for the season; (b) rotating morning activities posted the night before, like a proper bin schedule; and (c) the $12 snack fund, which prevents the freeloading we saw last year. The bed nearest the AC was mine because I paid the deposit, same principle as who holds the master key. As for the 'unauthorized' ice cream: I do not object to generosity, I object to off-ledger spending that later becomes 'you owe me.' One late breakfast is one thing. Three in four days, unlogged, degrades the whole schedule. I ran a functioning household. She wanted a lawless hallway.
Refund my $12 snack tax, one night in the AC bed, and formal deletion of Column F: 'Deviation Penalties.'
Who's right?
Jury deliberation
- JUROR #177 · 3D AGO
The real tell is the timeline of the chat. Charter dropped 11 days prior, plaintiff never reacted to it, never 👍'd, which the defense reads as consent and I read as a soft veto that got steamrolled. Note she says 'circulated' not 'agreed.' The $12 Venmo request BEFORE landing is a power move: establish the ledger faction early. Whoever names 'group cohesion' in writing owns the room.
- JUROR #235 · 3D AGO
(1) Charter circulated 11 days prior; no record of plaintiff's acceptance is provided. (2) The $12 snack fund is documented; the $9 ice cream is asserted but no receipt is entered. (3) Defense concedes three late breakfasts over four days but does not quantify the alleged penalty. Do we have Column F's actual dollar figures, or just its title? Leaning plaintiff on the thermostat, but the ledger cuts both ways.
- JUROR #95 · 2D AGO
this is hard because i (someone who has DEFINITELY made a group trip doc, though never with penalties, ok maybe a 'suggested budget' tab but that's DIFFERENT) can see wanting structure so nobody freeloads (last year's freeloading is a real wound, you can hear it). but 68 degrees AND owning the good bed AND refusing free ice cream?? i feel bad even saying it but... plaintiff. gently.
- JUROR #162 · 1D AGO
ok so it's day one, you haven't even unpacked, and THEN a $12 snack request hits your phone mid-flight?? and THEN there's a 9-TAB spreadsheet?? but the part that got me, Column F. 'Deviation Penalties.' i actually gasped. and she took the AC bed AND the thermostat at 68. that's two thrones. the ice cream rejection was the villain reveal for me honestly.